Natural Moms Podcast #153

My guest this week is Katy Bowman of Aligned and Well and Restorative Exercise. Katy is a Biomechanist and her blog is a wealth of helpful information for anyone who wants to prevent and reverse diseases caused by habits of modern life.

Our focus for this show:

Habits and daily disciplines to prevent aches and pains in pregnancy and prepare for an easier labor.

Katy answers my questions about belly bands for postpartum use, proper squatting form, the skinny on sucking in your stomach and getting back into shape postpartum, pelvic floor issues and more.

Listen by clicking on the grey arrow below.

(A transcript of this interview appears below if you would rather read. It’s a work in progress, it was unfinished by a transcriptionist I hired so I’m doing it myself. I’ll be adding to it throughout the week.)

Carrie :  We are joined this week by Katie from alignedandwell.com. Good morning Katie.

Katy : Good morning.

Carrie : I am so excited to be talking to you. I am a huge fan of your philosophies and blog. I have three of your exercise DVDs and have some questions.

Katy : Yes. Go for it

Carrie : It is funny how sometimes you just happen upon something on the internet and don’t really know how you got there. You follow that little rabbit hole… I don’t remember how I found out about your website, but when I did I just started digging in and reading archives and searching various things and thought, “oh my Gosh this is really awesome. Makes a lot of sense.” So please tell us about yourself and your background and what you are all about.

Katy : Well, I am a Biomechanist. Biomechanics is the science, the physics of Biology, I guess it is the easiest way to say it. My specialty is applying the field of biomechanics to injury and disease. And I have always been most interested in where disease comes from… the mechanisms … the actual cause. I don’t think there is a lot of work being done to try to find the cause as much as there is a lot of work done to take care of the problem. An engineer will usually figure out what the problem is before trying to find the solution. It is a lot easier to reverse engineer something than it is to kind of  stab in the dark to make a solution.

So I have always that natural interest, but I have always come from a platform regarding the human from its original state, not the modern human because the modern human which is you know, not just the human living in the 21st or 22nd Century, but really the human as it is lived since humans were. So your earliest humans before there were cars and before there was abundant food, even agriculture. That population had all the same equipment.

We have all the same equipment, but the habits are different. So I have always kind of investigated how do the habits of modern living contribute to a set of diseases that we call affluent ailments.

Affluent ailments are all the stuff that you will likely have and that  your parents have and that your friends have. And they are very normal they become very common within our population, but it is always important to maintain the prospective of they are still diseases and injuries based on the way we live. They’re not genetic issues and they are certainly preventable if you know enough information and you know, can change the large components of the way you live. And you don’t have to give up your house and give up your food, but for example just not sitting as much in chairs makes a big difference.

And then I would say that my focus has really become the pelvis. Pelvic floor disorder, female pelvic floor disorder was my specialty in graduate school so I did my research and my thesis on. So probably how you stumbled onto the blog was through something related to pregnancy or pelvic floor disorder because even though I do the whole body it seems like that where most people are coming from. They are coming to fix something with their pelvis or their abdomen and it is usually pregnancy related. So I have a lot more women who are interested. So that is also my greatest love and I am a woman that is currently pregnant. I just had a baby, but even 10 or 15 years before that I was interested in the pelvis.

Carrie : Cool. It just came to me. I think how I found you is I by doing some Googling about Plantar fasciitis.

Katy : Oh.

Carrie : Because my husband started to develop symptoms of that. Why in the heck is that? I mean when I have heard about in the past, it was something that elderly people had.

Katy : Right.

Carrie : I think that is how I found your blog, but I did come across an article on another blog, an interview did about pelvic floor issues. I am kind of lucky in that area I guess. I mean this is my 6th pregnancy, but I have not really had pelvic floor issues that a lot of women have had in their pregnancy. So maybe I accidentally did some things right.

Katy : Great.

Carrie : But we are going to talk a lot about pregnancy because yes this is my show and I am selfish and I can ask you some questions that will help me right now!

Katy : Right.

Carrie : You mentioned things like sitting in chairs and stuff like that. About 14 years ago when I was pregnant with my first child and took Bradley husband childhood classes. There was a lot of instruction about “tailor sitting” on the floor. That was something that I kept in mind. This pregnancy has really been the most comfortable that my back and hips have ever been and I have not had the pelvic pain. And I think it is because I have tried really hard to stay out of chairs and do my walking.

 

(Note about the pic: This is a stretch I do every day as part of a workout that Katy designed for Fit Pregnancy. If I forget, I have severe pain in my hips that wakes me up at night!)

So what are some things other than that pregnant women should be doing to prevent those aches and pains that we know so much about and also to prepare for labor to have an easier delivery?

Katy: Well, I think I always like to start off any pregnancy conversation with getting in their mind that, that pain and pregnancy should not go together. Again it has become really culturally common, but pregnancy should not be a pain. I guess that is the easiest title to give it. And that the pains that we have in the low back, in the hips, in the ligaments, in the knees, in the feet really have more to do with the fact that we are pretty de-conditioned as humans and that goes for even for people who exercise every single day.

We are still fairly inert for as a group of people, we don’t move very much. So if women can begin to get some of their strength before they are coming pregnant that would be most ideal – meaning that keeping yourself strong enough to deal with an extra 20 and 40 pounds or more that is going to go on your frame.

And so alignment has to do with the way that all of your bones are positioned relative to each other. Alignment in the skeleton that can hold the weight very comfortably without requiring joints to collapse or ligaments to strain. And that you get a lot of muscular development in response to this extra load.

If you can imagine trying to stack a pile of books into a table that is well balanced – the books are just going to sit up there.  But if the table has one leg that is a little bit shorter or the top of the table is sitting slightly off… it might not be a big deal and it might be able to sit there in your living room as long as no one touched it, but as soon as someone stacks books on it, it begins to crumble.

(Note: Good alignment. Head on shoulders, hips over heels, bootie untucked, everything stacked up nicely!)

 

So you want to get to know the moves that support alignment in your body that will support the extra weight and start doing them as soon as you become pregnant. You have a lot of months after becoming pregnant where you really don’t have that burden of extra weight. So you can take your first first four to five months to start thinking about … and not just thinking actually doing some stuff.

That would include muscle tension interfering with your strength. So feet, calves, hamstrings. These are the tight muscles that tend to pull the pelvis out of alignment.

And so untucking the pelvis – which is something that a lot of people tend to do. If you are sitting down right now, chances are you are sitting with a tucked pelvis.  One of the reason Bradley had you coming out of the couches is because you slouch in the couch and so you end up having this pelvis that tips back and the alignment of your uterus and your pelvis go hand in hand. You want to keep all of those axes vertical.

So stretching those muscles and then of course not using the furniture that encourages slouching are great to transition to while you are pregnant. Even if you need to sit on a couple of pillows that is fine. Having something behind your back that really allows you to kind of slouch and then walking.

I think most people knows enough basic exercise science to know that your muscles respond to what you are doing. So as you are getting more weight, as you are accumulating more mass on your body, it is important that you take that mass and walk around with it. So that your legs and your abdominals and your pelvic floor and your back become stronger as you gain weight.

So that the relationship between your weight and the strength is always even. You never have large surges weight gain during period of inactivity. If you are still working or sitting all day long it is really important that you take breaks. Walking throughout the dayif you gain four or five pounds over a period of a month but really only walk one or two days a week, you are going to find that your body is rapidly becoming weaker.

And then once you have that weakness and then the weight because full under instruction not to the pain comes from. So stretching, walking, reducing your sitting time and learning your alignment will probably my basic essential list for pregnancy and it will help with your delivery as well.

Carrie : Okay, and I will have you know that I am sitting with my bootie sticking out.

Katy : Okay, good.

Carrie : So I am doing good. Which is very difficult to do. If you sit on a sofa it is nearly impossible I find. So I have been trying to get on the floor a lot with my toddler. The only time that I sit during the day for a long period would be if I am sitting and writing for an hour, but I have been putting on my computer on the kitchen counter. When you stand you are never still … I am wiggling and kind of switching back and forth.

 

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Homeschool Curriculum 2012/2013: What We’re Doing

As I mentioned in this post on the kid’s summer routine, I’ve spent the last couple of weeks researching and buying curriculum for the 2012/2013 school year.

I knew that when the school year began, I would have a tiny newborn and my brain would be a little addled with interrupted sleep and postpartum hormones, so I decided to make things easier on myself by getting it all done way ahead of time.

We’re doing a few things differently, and I’m really excited about getting back into the swing of things. Two things have changed this year. Well, really 3. One, Sadie is in 1st grade which means she’s doing “real” school now. I know she’ll be happy about this, and mommy is too. She needs to keep busy! Two, Caleb is now a high school student. A little scary for me but exciting too! Three, we’ll have a new baby in the house when school starts. I’m a little nervous about getting everything done, but I know things will work out.

On to the curriculum choices.

I’ve long been a fan of Susan Wise Bauer. We’ve used and really enjoyed her Story of the World for history for a few years now. I’m not sure how her other educational tools slipped from my notice, but I’m glad discovered them. The lineup features several of her books.

Sadie, 1st Grade

Sadie is reading, so I didn’t see the need for a phonics program this year. I’m also not doing a History program with her. That will wait until next year.

Julien and Ilana, 4th and 6th Grades

I teach these two together for all subjects except math.

Caleb, 9th Grade

Caleb is doing really well in all subjects, and is a high level reader for his age. I’m going to have him start working on a reading journal a la The Well Educated Mind.

  • Writing: The Complete Writer: Writing with Skill, Level 1.
  • History/Geography: Story of the World, Volume 3 along with Tests Workbook. (I know that he is ready for the History of the World volumes, Susan Wise Bauer’s series for high schoolers and adults, but I’m weird about finishing things before starting something new!)
  • Foreign Language: Spanish – continuing progress with Rosetta Stone. Caleb is also interested in German and is studying that a little on his own.
  • Music: Piano – continuing his lessons with a private tutor
  • Math: Undecided
  • Literature: I’m so excited that Caleb is starting high school this year! I’m having him begin The Well-Educated Mind and he’ll start a reading journal now. He’s already read some of the classics but now it’s time for the heavier stuff. (I’m reading this book and will be journeying on the same path with him, I’m a little scared!)

Things that are the same as last year: We’ll still be doing daily Bible reading together in the mornings, a habit we’ll keep up in the summer too. Daily fiction read alouds are also a priority. First on the list this year: Farmer Boy by Laura Ingalls Wilder.

A few changes from last year: I’m no longer expecting anyone but Caleb to do foreign language studies. (Ilana and Sadie will probably continue with Spanish part time, as they seem to enjoy it a couple of times a week.)

I haven’t found a Science curriculum yet for anyone (I might skip it for the younger ones, any suggestions for my high schooler? I’ll likely sign each of the kids up for a Science class at a local arts center that offers classes for homeschoolers. The kids learn quite a bit of science from their reading so I’m not really concerned about it either way.

For the younger kids, I don’t like math to be consigned just to textbooks. I bought several of Anno’s math books. I love these! I’ve enjoyed reading them to the kids and see them picking them up also. I’ve heard great things about Life of Fred, several of those titles are on the wishlist too.

Also, I’m thrilled to have found a writing curriculum that I like in The Complete Writer series. Julien and Ilana love to write, and do so frequently. I don’t require creative writing from my elementary students, but Ilana writes book reports, letters, journals, compositions, etc on her own. Julien is quite a good journal writer and has filled a few journals in the last couple of years, which is a bit surprising because he isn’t a huge reader. But now that I’ve read The Complete Writer, I understand why this is so: reading and writing and two very different skills!

One concern I’ve had is that Caleb, while being a voracious reader (the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree on that one), says he hates writing. This worried me for two reasons: writing is an essential skill, and it also grieved me to hear him say that because I personally enjoy writing so much. Caleb is a very good speaker, and it would be a shame for him not to be able to transmit his thoughts onto paper. I think the Complete Writer series is going to transform his thinking.

Got any suggestions for 9th grade math and science?

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The Importance of Probiotics in Pregnancy

This is an article written by Dr. Challa, my guest on this week’s podcast. After reading his book, Probiotics for Dummies, I became convinced that I probably was deficient in good bacteria and bought a high quality supplement. While I would normally get my “bugs” by eating probiotic rich foods, I find that some of them are intolerable during pregnancy when my taste buds change and cravings and aversions are strong.

After two weeks of supplementing, I’ve found that I have less belching after eating, and I’m also more regular (and that’s no small benefit!). I wonder if I had supplemented before I became pregnant, if I would have had less struggle with nausea and vomiting? After reading Dr. Challa’s book, I’m thinking that health care providers would do well to recommend a probiotic supplement (as they currently do with folic acid) for women of child bearing age.

Here are a few reasons why probiotics in foods and supplements are so important for pregnant women and their babies.

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Pregnancy and Probiotics

Most pregnant women experience food cravings. In addition to these dietary changes, a pregnant woman undergoes alternations in her digestive system. Women may experience heartburn, constipation, diarrhea, bloating, nausea and vomiting. A lot of this may be due to an imbalance of good and bad bacteria in the gut. By taking probiotics (good bacteria) during pregnancy, Mom can feel the benefits of a healthier digestive system as her good bacteria are replenished.

How else do Mom and baby benefit from probiotics during pregnancy? Here are a few facts:

Mom is:

  • As much as 18 percent less likely to give birth prematurely.
  • Able to drop the pregnancy weight faster.
  • At a lower risk of developing central obesity (belly fat) — if excess belly fat is retained after birth, Mom is at a higher risk for cardiovascular disease.
  • At a 20 percent lower risk of developing gestational diabetes and diabetes after birth.

Baby also reaps health benefits if Mom takes probiotics while she’s pregnant. Baby is:

  • At a 50 percent reduced risk of developing eczema.
  • Not as likely to develop asthma, childhood obesity or diabetes.
  • At a lower risk of developing a condition called necrotizing enterocolitis (where intestinal tissue begins to die).

After Birth

The risk of developing diseases due to central obesity from pregnancy weight is higher for women who do not take probiotics. While the role of probiotics in weight management is still vague, researchers have found a correlation between the gut flora (types of bacteria found in your gut) and the subsequent weight of a person, whether they are lean or overweight.

A study done in Finland followed 256 pregnant women, beginning in the first trimester through the first year after birth. Researchers found that only 25 percent of women who took probiotics had belly fat, and the group taking probiotics actually had lost the highest amount of body fat since their first trimester. In comparison, 43 percent of women who took a placebo had central fat at the end of the first year.

Happy, Healthy Baby

We’ve all heard, “I want to pinch those chubby cheeks!” While we all love those sweet cheeks, babies who weigh 8 pounds, 13 ounces or more at birth are at a higher risk of being overweight.

Newborns are also at risk of colic — severe pain in the abdomen that causes babies to cry more than three hours a day at least three times a week. Recent studies show the probiotic Lactobacillus reuteri (found in breast milk) helps reduce crying spells, inflammation and amounts of bad bacteria.

When deciding between naturally breast fed and using baby formula, mothers don’t always have a choice. Prebiotic-enriched baby formula contains similar gut bacteria to that found in breast-milk-fed infants. Nowadays you can find baby formulas that contain prebiotics, probiotics or a combination of the two (known as synbiotics).

**Please Note: Always consult your physician before adding a supplement — including probiotics — to your diet.

Choosing a probiotic can be difficult with so many options. I recommend the gourmet probiotic Probulin. Use promo code “Challa” on your order to receive 25 percent off at http://www.probulin.com/.

Dr. Shekhar Challa is a board certified Gastroenterologist, Co-producer of probiotic video game Microwarriors: The Battle Within, and author of the new book Probiotics for Dummieswww.drchalla.com.

A final thought from Carrie:

Probiotic supplementation is an especially good idea for a baby born via C-section. Babies born vaginally pick up normal flora via the birth canal, so their gut begins to grow good bacteria immediately, which helps create a healthy immune system.

Babies deprived this advantage due to a C-section delivery are more likely to develop asthma and allergies. One study of C-section-delivered children found that 6 month old babies had half the amount of normal gut flora as vaginally delivered babies.

Probiotics are regarded as safe even for infants – as evidenced by the fact that it is now added to infant formula (of course, it’s always been in breastmilk!).  Probiotics are a great idea for a baby (and mom) who have developed thrush, which is more common among C-section babies due to the antibiotics they’re exposed to.

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The Trouble With Mama Berenstain

I have a love/hate relationship with the popular Berenstain Bears series of books. You know the ones. Mama Bear, Papa Bear, Brother and Sister Bear, and the latest addition, Honey Bear.

These books find their way into my home somehow. Sadie, 6, seems to love them. She often checks them out at the library and sometimes asks me to buy her one when we go to Barnes and Noble too. I usually acquiesce, but there are a couple of things that bug me about the books.

For one, I don’t like the representation of Papa Bear as an overgrown child with plenty of bad habits that, along with the children’s, need to be corrected. This stereotype of Dad as clueless, overgrown child (a la Homer Simpson) may ring true in some families, but it’s not something I want to reinforce with read aloud time. (Charles Ingalls is a much better literary Dad to introduce kids to.)

But the biggest trouble with the Berenstain Bears books is Mama. She has a habit that hits a little too close to home.

Do you know what it is?

 

The woman is entirely too patient.

First, she lets her kids get entrenched in some really bad habits (like watching Too Much TV, eating Too Much Junk Food, having a Messy Room, Not Doing Chores, Forgetting Table Manners, Fighting, etc.).

Then, when she can’t take it anymore, she has a Mama Bear fit and lays down the law.

As I was reading one of these pithy little volumes to Sadie the other day, I realized why this irritated me:

Precisely because it hits a little too close to home.

Ouch.

In my defense, at least I don’t make the mistake of a) not consulting my husband before making sweeping parenting decisions and b) treating him like one of the children.

But I do see a disturbing tendency in myself to overlook things and be a little too patient, then get FED UP with the problem and start meting out punishments.

The Trouble Is… (oh there I go again!), overlooking small irritations may be fine when you’re feeling well and life is behaving. But then you get pregnant, or go through a stressful life change, or get sick, or have financial problems, or whatever… and those little irritations are no longer tolerable.

They become un-bear-able. (Sorry, couldn’t resist!)

And often by the time you decide it’s bad enough to take action on, the problem is entrenched and takes more work to undo.

How does one overcome this problem? Kelly Nault, an author I interviewed several years ago on the show referred to it as the “Pendulum of Parenting“.

So what are your thoughts? Is the occasional, well-timed Mommy Fit ok?

How do you know when something is enough of a “big deal” to deal with it immediately, and when it’s ok to overlook it?

As for me, I’m working on taking notice of behaviors and asking myself the question, “Is this a behavior I can live with if it takes up permanent residence here? Is this a one-off naughty act that can be explained by hunger, fatigue or hormones or is it an ongoing pattern?”

What do you think?

 

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Natural Moms Podcast #152

My guest this week is Dr. Shekhar Challa. Dr. Challa is a Board- Certified Gastroenterologist with 25 years of experience and the author of 3 books, including his most recent, Probiotics for Dummies.

We’re discussing the importance of probiotics for health, specifically women’s health – during pregnancy, and for babies and kids.

Dr. Challa answered my questions about:

  • What probiotics (and prebiotics) actually are;
  • Why are probiotics especially important for pregnant women and their babies?
  • Illnesses that are associated with dysbiosis (improper balance of good to bad bacteria in the gut)
  • What are some foods that contain beneficial bacteria? Can we get enough beneficial bacteria from food?
  • How can you find a high quality supplement?

In reading Dr. Challa’s book, I was surprised to find that in many studies, probiotics have shown to improve a variety of health conditions – and not just those directly associated with gut health. We’ve probably only scratched the surface, but research points to probiotics being useful in preventing or treating a variety of illnesses including asthma and allergies, weight gain, even cancer and depression.

Dr. Challa has even developed a video game to educate players about the importance of probiotics. You can get it free at http://microwarriorsvideogame.com/ (Sounds like a Science project the kids will enjoy!)

Probiotics for Dummies also features recipes for foods you can make at home to get more good bacteria into your gut as well as recommendations for choosing a good probiotic supplement.

Note: Dr. Challa has generously offered to answer questions you may have after listening to the interview. Please leave them in the comments below!

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A Summer Routine for the Kids

I’ve read several great articles lately about summer activities and routines moms have planned for their kids. This topic has been on my mind too, but I’ve put off writing about it.

Mostly because I don’t want to do much in the next 10- 12 weeks except finish growing this baby!

It’s not very exciting to tell you that I don’t plan on going to the pool a lot. I’ll save going for when hubby is around to help me constantly count heads. As nice as swimming feels during late pregnancy, it feels too stressful right now to keep everyone safe in the water without another adult to help.

And I don’t have any trips planned except two local field trips. One, we’re heading to the Jimmy Carter Museum to see an exhibit on George Washington Carver. Julien and Ilana just read his biography for Beyond Five in a Row.

The second is to the Aviation Museum at the airport. I bought tickets to this for next to nothing months ago, a Groupon deal, and the coupon is about to expire. Julien has an interest in aviation so I thought he would enjoy that.

Other than that, I plan on staying home a lot and nesting. So far I haven’t been very compelled to scrub baseboards with toothbrushes and the like, but we did do a huge declutter and cleanup of the basement the other weekend.

I think my nesting is mostly showing itself in my recent obsession with buying curriculum for the next school year.

I know I won’t have as much time to decide on the options and purchase stuff with a little newborn, so I’m getting it all done now. Most everything is on its way to me as we speak courtesy of eBay and Amazon.com. (I’ll post about what changes I’m making from last year and what we’re using later on.)

I will be spending the next few weeks reading instructor texts and getting a routine for the school year down on paper.

Life is feeling a bit frenzied lately, and I’m really looking forward to a lazy summer and to the babymoon to come in late July.

I do need to think of a few ways to keep the kids busy, but that will likely consist of tall stacks of books from the library. And chores, and helping me fill the freezer in preparation for the baby’s arrival.

Other than buying the birth kit and getting the sterile sheets and such ready, all the baby buying is done. I plan on spending the last few weeks of my pregnancy reading, taking long walks (in the morning before it gets too hot!) and maybe getting a pedicure or two. :-)

What’s on your agenda for summer?

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Happiness Project: A Year in Review

Last year I read a wonderful book entitled The Happiness Project, by Gretchen Rubin. I embarked on a Happiness Project of my own and even invited two friends to join me. We had a couple of happiness project group meetings.

It was a valuable experience and while I think I learned a few new things,  mostly I cemented what I already knew about happiness. And I got these ideas onto this blog instead of just in my head.

One of the most important things I believe about happiness is that it’s largely about what you DO DAILY.

In All The Money in the World, Laura Vanderkam points to research that states that more happiness is found in frequent, small experiences than rare, mind blowing ones. In other words, for me reading a good book every week may far exceed the happiness I would get from a once yearly Disney trip.

So I exercise daily. I read something I enjoy every day. I blog or write every day. I read my Bible every day. I get up before my family every day. If something is important to your sense of well being, you will likely find it easier to do that thing every single day. I find that for me, habits are more effective than goals.

Similarly, it’s often the little things that contribute most to happiness. Not letting myself get too hungry and keeping my blood sugar under control are huge. Taking a 20 minute nap every day and making my bed in the mornings. A shade of lipstick that flatters me. Not difficult to accomplish but they all give me a happiness boost.

It’s not selfish to give time and attention to your happiness.

 

By doing so, you avoid the dreaded martyr mother syndrome and set a good example for your kids. Your happiness also impacts your spouse in a positive way.

One of the things I know about my happiness is that I can’t neglect my social life. If it’s been too many weeks since I’ve had a coffee date with a girlfriend or spent some quality alone time with my husband, my happiness takes a nosedive. Pursing my personal financial and work goals are also vitally important to my well being. Taking time to write and blog are investments in my happiness.

One of Gretchen’s rules for living is to “Be Gretchen”. Part of “Being Carrie” is to let go of things that don’t work… and being ok with that.

“To be happier, you have to think about feeling good, feeling bad, and feeling right, in an atmosphere of growth.” – Gretchen Rubin

I’ve learned that there are effective ways to snap out of a bad mood. And that the bad mood isn’t “wasted” if I go backwards in time to figure out what causes a bad mood, so I can learn something valuable about myself and if possible, avoid those triggers in the future.

Reading the book Being Happy taught me that perfectionism is one of the biggest destroyers of happiness. I try very hard to avoid all or nothing, black/white type thinking for this reason too.

Spending at least 15 minutes outside every day is important for happiness. When the weather is nice, this is more like an hour or more for me. Recently I have begun making sure I am barefoot at least part of the time so I can benefit from “earthing“.

So that’s it in a nutshell. Have you read The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun yet? What have you learned about happiness?

 

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Bits and Pieces

Here are a few things I wanted to share from around the web this week:

- Did you know that many “natural” sunscreens may accelerate aging? Apparently the nano-particles in some mineral sunscreens are responsible for this. Before you throw your hands up in despair, however, read this very helpful article on Kitchen Stewardship’s blog. Note: I’ve had good success using coconut oil as a sunblock on myself and the kids to prevent sunburn. In order for this to work well, you must avoid cheap vegetable oils when you’re spending time in the sun (no french fries or Doritos!) and consume healthy fats only. (By the way, if you do feel the need to use one, the sunscreen I mention on that page, MelanSol, gets good safety ratings from EWG’s Skin Deep database.)

- I wrote for Modern Mrs. Darcy about finding time for your blog. I feel strongly about this and shared how I manage to squeeze in writing time each day. Please go over there and leave a comment.

- Do you struggle with kids who won’t let you finish a sentence or who constantly interrupt your conversations? Maybe you need to join Lisa’s Taking Back the Quiet challenge!

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Broken

Something awesome must be in the works for me shortly because right now everything feels broken. Does that ever happen to you? Does everything ever just stop working all of a sudden? What’s up with that anyway?

 

In the span of 3 days, a bunch of literal physical things did break: my purse snapped while I was walking in a parking lot, necessitating a trip to the thrift store to buy another (I hate that!), then my phone went caput with some crazy warning screen of death. I replaced it with another phone which also doesn’t work. Then my laptop got stepped on, and I’m attempting to type this post with crazy purple lightning coming down all over the screen. It’s making my neck hurt. I apologize in advance for typos I cannot see. Then the third headphone set we’ve had (the others – you guessed it, broke!) for Rosetta broke. No more Spanish until I replace it. I had just replaced this thing to the tune of $30. Ugh! Then Ruby’s toddler bed broke – for the second time, when a big kid sat on it. Good thing I know a guy. Did I mention that I ran out of gas the other day? For the first time in my life, ever, after 21 years of driving? My gas gauge is broken.

I’m also feeling a little emotionally broken at the moment. I’m feeling like too many people need me right now. It’s difficult for us moms of many to express this, because we feel like if we ever complain that people will blame us for having had so many kids. So we clam up and don’t reach out. I remember Kim Coghlan of Life in a Shoe referring to this phenomenon. The truth is that no matter how many children you have or don’t have, you sometimes feel a little overwhelmed by your responsibilities. For me this happens during pregnancy. I don’t normally feel vulnerable, and I have to remind myself that when I’m not pregnant I typically feel quite on top of my life. But it seems pretty common for women to feel this way when they’re growing a new person, yo. (It’s especially difficult to reconcile these feelings with my own personal ambitions.)

Some things in our homeschool day feel a little broken. I haven’t spoken of this much here but I have one child whose learning style is so different from my own that I struggle to meet his needs. Yet if he were in public school it would be horrible for him. Actually, having typed that I realize I’m probably meeting them quite well. It’s just that there’s always that doubt, that questioning if you’re pushing just enough to challenge the child without losing sight of their individual strengths. This child isn’t lacking in intelligence and he amazes me every day. It’s just that following through on the things I do require of him are wearing me out. He struggles mightily with executive functioning. Oh, wait a second. I need to listen to this interview again and maybe re-read the book too. ;)

Maybe taking the summer off will help with all this. But I find myself already planning our curriculum for next year. Mostly because I know August will be here before I know it, and I’ll have a snugly little newborn and postpartum happy hormones sucking up my brain cells.

I had an honest talk with 3 of the kids today about some changes I needed to see. I reminded them that things were only going to get more challenging for me as the pregnancy progresses, and then when I have a newborn I will need them to be more responsible as the “big kids”. A lot can change in 3 months, so I’m not too worried. Kids have a way of doing what we need them to, just in the nick of time.

So that’s my week in a nutshell. How has your week been?

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Entrepreneurial Kids

I love it when my kids show a tendency towards entrepreneurship. One of the things I hope to accomplish by homeschooling is helping them to think outside the box when it comes to making money (which seems essential this day and age).

 

 

Instead of the tired paradigm “If I want money I need to find someone who will hire me to do something they want me to do”, the entrepreneur thinks this way: “I need to figure out what people want and provide it – then bill ‘em!”

This shows itself up in our daily lives frequently around here.

One reason is because, since I pay them an allowance, I expect them to buy “extras” from their own money. Hunger Games trading cards? A Hello Kitty backpack when you already have 2 perfectly functional backpacks at home? I would no rather pay for those than I would buy a unicorn.

This creates motivation.

11 year old Julien has a lively eBay business. His inventory was initially clutter around his room. But now, he has figured out how to get stuff cheaply from China and resell it at a nice markup to US customers.

This kid also buys big bags of gumballs or chocolate at the grocery store on sale, and selling them off piecemeal to eager but not as creative customers (read: his 12 and 9 year old sisters!).

Just yesterday the oldest decided he wanted a Netflix account. He knew they offered a free one month trial, so he signed up using his debit card (he has a “MONEY” checking account just for teens from ING, and that’s how I pay his allowance). He intends to cancel before the month is out, but not before he saw an opportunity to earn some cash from his siblings who were eager to take advantage! I overheard him charging the younger ones a penny for a minute of use. 30 minutes of SpongeBob = .30 for him. Not bad considering he has no operating costs – and with several TV-starved siblings, this could add up quick!

These kids have a definite advantage going for them. The cuteness factor, for one. When we go to a yard sale, people give them stuff for free. Just last weekend, Sadie got a free umbrella (that she had been asking me to give her for months with no success), Julien got a free backpack and they get free toys and tchotchkes all the time. All they do is ask how much an item costs and they typically take it home for nothing.

My kids are quick to complain about the dark side of child labor laws. Caleb, who will be 14 in June, would love to work for a decent wage if there were opportunities to do so. This is something I regret about our modern society.

Sometimes when my kids are asking me for something a little frivolous or inconvenient, I remind them of my hourly wage and ask them if they would be willing to pay me for my time. That cuts out a lot of errands!

I want my kids to learn that at its essence, making money is less about trading time for dollars and more about good ideas.

What do you do to encourage the spirit of entrepreneurship in your kids?

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