Comments on: Ass+U+Me http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/assume/ Natural Motherhood, Breastfeeding, Baby Wearing and Green Living. Thu, 19 Apr 2012 19:34:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: margot http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/assume/comment-page-1/#comment-136616 margot Sun, 22 Jan 2012 08:13:17 +0000 http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/?p=5205#comment-136616 What might be underlying some of these questions is people's negative opinions about your decision to have so many children and the resulting impact on our world. Though I love children and could imagine birthing many more, I would never consider birthing more than two, and I consider any decision to do so to be selfish at the expense of our larger environment and world. Over-population is such a huge problem, which contributed to environmental destruction. And any child raised in the US consumed infinitely more resources than children born in poorer countries no matter how frugal the family. I can't imagine doing anymore than replacing myself and my husband in terms of the number of children we birth. Of course, adoption is an ethical way to have many more children. What might be underlying some of these questions is people’s negative opinions about your decision to have so many children and the resulting impact on our world. Though I love children and could imagine birthing many more, I would never consider birthing more than two, and I consider any decision to do so to be selfish at the expense of our larger environment and world. Over-population is such a huge problem, which contributed to environmental destruction. And any child raised in the US consumed infinitely more resources than children born in poorer countries no matter how frugal the family. I can’t imagine doing anymore than replacing myself and my husband in terms of the number of children we birth. Of course, adoption is an ethical way to have many more children.

]]> By: Stephanie http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/assume/comment-page-1/#comment-136588 Stephanie Sun, 22 Jan 2012 01:51:35 +0000 http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/?p=5205#comment-136588 Thank you for posting this! I am pregnant with my fifth and I am sooooo tired of the comments. We too believe that children are a blessing. I actually think that it's easier now in a lot of ways than it was when we just had one or two kids. They entertain each other, for one thing. The older ones are able to be very helpful with housework and many hands make light work. If I need to toss in a load of laundry, there's almost always someone around who can keep an eye on the youngest for a few minutes. The baby is a people watcher and his siblings love having an audience for their songs, plays and dances as much as he loves watching them. Thank you for posting this! I am pregnant with my fifth and I am sooooo tired of the comments. We too believe that children are a blessing.

I actually think that it’s easier now in a lot of ways than it was when we just had one or two kids. They entertain each other, for one thing. The older ones are able to be very helpful with housework and many hands make light work. If I need to toss in a load of laundry, there’s almost always someone around who can keep an eye on the youngest for a few minutes. The baby is a people watcher and his siblings love having an audience for their songs, plays and dances as much as he loves watching them.

]]> By: Ashley http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/assume/comment-page-1/#comment-136500 Ashley Sat, 21 Jan 2012 00:26:57 +0000 http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/?p=5205#comment-136500 I have six kids and I get the "you must be supermom" comment a lot. Surprisingly I have only gotten the negative birth control comments a handful of times, and most of those were when I only had four kids. My husband says it's because I give people the evil eyebrow as soon as they comment on our family size. I have six kids and I get the “you must be supermom” comment a lot. Surprisingly I have only gotten the negative birth control comments a handful of times, and most of those were when I only had four kids.

My husband says it’s because I give people the evil eyebrow as soon as they comment on our family size.

]]> By: Kate http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/assume/comment-page-1/#comment-136047 Kate Mon, 16 Jan 2012 20:50:31 +0000 http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/?p=5205#comment-136047 Hi, I found your blog via Miss Minimalist and love it! One thing though that you might not be considering when people are making these assumptions is what kind of children they have or have been around. Not all kids are created equal as far as temperament is concerned, and perhaps you've been blessed with more pleasant temperaments in your family. I parent my 2 boys the same way, yet they are polar opposites. one is an absolute darling and I'd gladly have 5 more kids if I knew that's what all children were like. My other son is described as many things such as strong-willed, agressive/defiant, adhd, and no level of firm or loving parenting makes a difference, it is just who he is. He requires 24/7 supervision within arm's reach or else people get hurt, and the thought of six more of the same to care for is just not humanly possible and is downright unsafe. six more of my other child would be absolutely heavenly. just something to consider; maybe their image of six children is different than who your six children are. Hi, I found your blog via Miss Minimalist and love it! One thing though that you might not be considering when people are making these assumptions is what kind of children they have or have been around. Not all kids are created equal as far as temperament is concerned, and perhaps you’ve been blessed with more pleasant temperaments in your family. I parent my 2 boys the same way, yet they are polar opposites. one is an absolute darling and I’d gladly have 5 more kids if I knew that’s what all children were like. My other son is described as many things such as strong-willed, agressive/defiant, adhd, and no level of firm or loving parenting makes a difference, it is just who he is. He requires 24/7 supervision within arm’s reach or else people get hurt, and the thought of six more of the same to care for is just not humanly possible and is downright unsafe. six more of my other child would be absolutely heavenly.
just something to consider; maybe their image of six children is different than who your six children are.

]]> By: susan http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/assume/comment-page-1/#comment-136006 susan Mon, 16 Jan 2012 12:28:45 +0000 http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/?p=5205#comment-136006 Found you blog and love it. We too have 6 children. People started asking us strange questions when I was pregnant with our 4th who happened to be born with Down syndrome. We adopted #5, a darling baby boy with Down syndrome, and people thought we had lost our mind. Four years later when I was 49 and hubby 55 we adopted#6 and you guessed it ....another baby with Down syndrome. People finally shut up because they thought we had lost our minds! That was 14 years ago and we are all doing great. It is so much fun having a big family. Oh yes, hubby lost his job at 63 and we had some lean years but we did just fine. Congratulations on baby#7. What a joy that darling child will bring. Found you blog and love it. We too have 6 children. People started asking us strange questions when I was pregnant with our 4th who happened to be born with Down syndrome. We adopted #5, a darling baby boy with Down syndrome, and people thought we had lost our mind. Four years later when I was 49 and hubby 55 we adopted#6 and you guessed it ….another baby with Down syndrome. People finally shut up because they thought we had lost our minds! That was 14 years ago and we are all doing great. It is so much fun having a big family. Oh yes, hubby lost his job at 63 and we had some lean years but we did just fine. Congratulations on baby#7. What a joy that darling child will bring.

]]> By: Jessica http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/assume/comment-page-1/#comment-135820 Jessica Sat, 14 Jan 2012 17:53:14 +0000 http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/?p=5205#comment-135820 I think your blog and podcast are really awesome. More mom's like yourself need to come forward and share your story and your family's tips on staying financially sound and providing for children. Our society is set up to make it near impossible to raise children, and at least 60% of that is attitude. Although I am a pro-choice feminist, I believe that if the choice to terminate is made because a mother cannot, or does not believe that she can raise her child due to finances or support is such a terrible tragedy. There needs to be more awareness of alternative ways to raise families without breaking the bank. I think your blog and podcast are really awesome. More mom’s like yourself need to come forward and share your story and your family’s tips on staying financially sound and providing for children. Our society is set up to make it near impossible to raise children, and at least 60% of that is attitude. Although I am a pro-choice feminist, I believe that if the choice to terminate is made because a mother cannot, or does not believe that she can raise her child due to finances or support is such a terrible tragedy. There needs to be more awareness of alternative ways to raise families without breaking the bank.

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