Chain of Command

February 9, 2009

This time for Mothering Monday, I wanted to ask y’all a question.

Do you ever put an older child in charge?

How’s it workin’ for ya?

This morning, despite getting 7 hours of sleep last night, I was still exhausted from Blissdom 09.

So at around 9:30 when I was feeling so tired that I could hardly take a deep breath, I decided to have a lay down.

I asked my oldest to keep an eye on the girls (which basically means, don’t let anyone go outside) while I rested my eyes for 20 minutes. (While I don’t believe in using teenaged boys as babysitters, my ten year old son is capable of keeping an eye on his sisters for a few minutes while I am in the house with him.)

A mom doesn’t really sleep when her kids are awake. Know what I mean?

But after a little while I hear arguing and screaming from the living room.

Apparently 6 year old daughter did NOT appreciate that I had put oldest in charge. I hear the dreaded,

“You’re not the BOSS of me!”

… to which oldest replied,

“Actually, when mom isn’t here, I AM the boss.”

Then I hear the pitpat of little 3 year old girl feet.

She climbs up on my bed with the burning question of the day:

“Mommeeeee, when you aw not hewe, is Cay-yub (Caleb) da boss?”


How does this work in your family? Tell me in the comments below.

Do you ever put an older child in charge for a little while and if so, how do your other kids feel about that?

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2 Responses to “Chain of Command”

  1. Lexi on February 9th, 2009 2:22 pm

    I have to put my 14 year old daughter in charge of the munchkins, 8 and 2. In the beginning, the 8 yo did not like it so I told her, “she is the boss of you.” That seems to have done the trick.

  2. Lisa D. on February 9th, 2009 3:29 pm

    You are the boss by default. If you put the CAT (not that you would) in charge, and asked the rest of the posse to respect it’s command, you should expect them to. Of course, you would also expect your designated leader to be a benevolent one. Maybe you should ask the dog.

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