Comments on: How Not To Hate Parenting http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/how-not-to-hate-parenting/ Natural Motherhood, Breastfeeding, Baby Wearing and Green Living. Fri, 02 Mar 2012 11:33:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: carrie http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/how-not-to-hate-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-105818 carrie Mon, 12 Sep 2011 22:36:01 +0000 http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/?p=4279#comment-105818 "To me child rearing was the ultimate job I had been looking forward to for most of my life" - Beautifully put, and I feel the same way! “To me child rearing was the ultimate job I had been looking forward to for most of my life” – Beautifully put, and I feel the same way!

]]> By: Chloe Hernandez http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/how-not-to-hate-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-105799 Chloe Hernandez Mon, 12 Sep 2011 20:22:58 +0000 http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/?p=4279#comment-105799 I agree with all the comments here. I have always enjoyed parenting. The things that have made me unhappy from time to time is the UN child/mother friendly our society is. I have been made to feel like the odd three eyed toad in the room because I breastfed all 3 of children everywhere in public. My children have all shared the family bed ( two still do ). Boy that one gets my relatives and well meaning friends in a tizzy! And that I homeschool...imagine that! For my husband and I, we have always blurred the line of school and teaching. For us every moment is a moment to teach something. I USED to be hyper-concerned with what others thought about me, or what I thought I "should" be doing as a parent. I am happy to say now with my third child I am more relaxed and less worried that someone is casting a sideways glance at me. To me child rearing was the ultimate job I had been looking forward to for most of my life. I believe these people that make statements about parents being un-happy are usually childless ones. As the saying goes..."You truly cannot know someone until you have walked a mile in their shoes.." I agree with all the comments here. I have always enjoyed parenting. The things that have made me unhappy from time to time is the UN child/mother friendly our society is. I have been made to feel like the odd three eyed toad in the room because I breastfed all 3 of children everywhere in public. My children have all shared the family bed ( two still do ). Boy that one gets my relatives and well meaning friends in a tizzy! And that I homeschool…imagine that! For my husband and I, we have always blurred the line of school and teaching. For us every moment is a moment to teach something. I USED to be hyper-concerned with what others thought about me, or what I thought I “should” be doing as a parent. I am happy to say now with my third child I am more relaxed and less worried that someone is casting a sideways glance at me. To me child rearing was the ultimate job I had been looking forward to for most of my life. I believe these people that make statements about parents being un-happy are usually childless ones. As the saying goes…”You truly cannot know someone until you have walked a mile in their shoes..”

]]> By: Emily http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/how-not-to-hate-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-105788 Emily Mon, 12 Sep 2011 19:30:46 +0000 http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/?p=4279#comment-105788 AWESOME points, Carrie! I totally hated parenting when DS was a toddler - and not every day is a walk in the park these days - but a big part is that I've never been a baby/toddler/preschooler person and always knew it would get better as DS gets bigger. And he has. Another part is that I always have to have at least 5 projects going on at once, and it was a huge adjustment to incorporate caring for a very attention-needy boy into everything I wanted to do. AWESOME points, Carrie! I totally hated parenting when DS was a toddler – and not every day is a walk in the park these days – but a big part is that I’ve never been a baby/toddler/preschooler person and always knew it would get better as DS gets bigger.

And he has.

Another part is that I always have to have at least 5 projects going on at once, and it was a huge adjustment to incorporate caring for a very attention-needy boy into everything I wanted to do.

]]> By: carrie http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/how-not-to-hate-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-105772 carrie Mon, 12 Sep 2011 17:12:03 +0000 http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/?p=4279#comment-105772 Stephanie I totally agree with your statement that you may not recommend your own choices to your daughters because of the uncertainty of marriage. I wrote about my strong feelings on this topic on my now closed down business blog: http://carrielauth.com/blog/work-at-home-moms-arent-making-the-feminine-mistake/ No matter what a woman's personal feelings on divorce are (whether it's a last resort, against her religious beliefs, etc), she can find herself divorced. I plan on teaching my daughters to always have a source of income, no matter what. It's just smart. I wish it didn't have to be that way, but just being realistic: it is. Stephanie I totally agree with your statement that you may not recommend your own choices to your daughters because of the uncertainty of marriage. I wrote about my strong feelings on this topic on my now closed down business blog: http://carrielauth.com/blog/work-at-home-moms-arent-making-the-feminine-mistake/

No matter what a woman’s personal feelings on divorce are (whether it’s a last resort, against her religious beliefs, etc), she can find herself divorced. I plan on teaching my daughters to always have a source of income, no matter what. It’s just smart. I wish it didn’t have to be that way, but just being realistic: it is.

]]> By: Stephanie Watson http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/how-not-to-hate-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-105654 Stephanie Watson Sun, 11 Sep 2011 21:12:50 +0000 http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/?p=4279#comment-105654 I've raised four children (all girls) as a mostly, stay at home mom. (I tried working here and there but hated it) I breast fed, shared a bed, and then allowed for a healthy transition into independence. I even home schooled for a time. I never once regretted my choices, but sadly, I am not sure I would recommend the same to my own children due to the things you listed and the uncertainty of marriage. I tell my daughters to make sure that they go to college, establish their careers, save up money to stay home while their children are young, then get back to work. I do try to encourage them to get involved in more flexible careers that they can do from home or run as their own business though. I warn them about what making the same choice I made means for their future. It's sad. I wish we had a more child and mom friendly society. I was judged a lot by various people for my choices when the girls were younger, but I was always very happy. If anything made me unhappy it was how other people treated me for my choices. As if raising future generations is somehow "less than". Now that they're grown I will likely still keep working from home. I love it. But, I really want to teach (college) and I have had a really hard time finding a job like that. I apply daily, but never receive even one call. I believe that it is due to the 25 years I've been a stay at home mom. Never mind that I've run a successful business, and never mind that I teach people every day, and never mind that I have a very successful college career behind me. Never mind that I'm at an age now where I would be very dependable and good at teaching.... I still will never regret making the choices I have made. I have four intelligent, successful and wonderful daughters that give a lot to the world and I believe had I not made the choices I did they would be different. I'm happy with that. I’ve raised four children (all girls) as a mostly, stay at home mom. (I tried working here and there but hated it) I breast fed, shared a bed, and then allowed for a healthy transition into independence. I even home schooled for a time.

I never once regretted my choices, but sadly, I am not sure I would recommend the same to my own children due to the things you listed and the uncertainty of marriage. I tell my daughters to make sure that they go to college, establish their careers, save up money to stay home while their children are young, then get back to work.

I do try to encourage them to get involved in more flexible careers that they can do from home or run as their own business though. I warn them about what making the same choice I made means for their future. It’s sad. I wish we had a more child and mom friendly society.

I was judged a lot by various people for my choices when the girls were younger, but I was always very happy. If anything made me unhappy it was how other people treated me for my choices. As if raising future generations is somehow “less than”.

Now that they’re grown I will likely still keep working from home. I love it. But, I really want to teach (college) and I have had a really hard time finding a job like that. I apply daily, but never receive even one call. I believe that it is due to the 25 years I’ve been a stay at home mom.

Never mind that I’ve run a successful business, and never mind that I teach people every day, and never mind that I have a very successful college career behind me. Never mind that I’m at an age now where I would be very dependable and good at teaching…. I still will never regret making the choices I have made.

I have four intelligent, successful and wonderful daughters that give a lot to the world and I believe had I not made the choices I did they would be different. I’m happy with that.

]]> By: Tsoniki Crazy Bull http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/how-not-to-hate-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-105651 Tsoniki Crazy Bull Sun, 11 Sep 2011 20:30:05 +0000 http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/?p=4279#comment-105651 When I had our oldest, I parented her the way I was parented (and the way I saw my family parenting the newest to join us) - I nursed, I wrapped her in a blanket, she slept with us (and then in our room), she always had a hat on, etc. These were just natural to me, they were just what I did. She was several months old when I made friends with a woman who followed attachment parenting - which she declared was exactly what I was doing. Except I didn't find it in a book, I just did it because that's what my family did. Of course I understand that there are people who didn't like how they were raised (my husband is one) so they look to outside resources like books, so thank goodness they are there to fall back on. People are probably less happy because of everything you listed - kids are underfoot 24/7, people don't feel safe letting their kids just go play, society is a harsh judge, the overscheduling, etc. I've worked hard to maintain ME and I know I wouldn't be happy if I didn't make that a priority. When I had our oldest, I parented her the way I was parented (and the way I saw my family parenting the newest to join us) – I nursed, I wrapped her in a blanket, she slept with us (and then in our room), she always had a hat on, etc. These were just natural to me, they were just what I did. She was several months old when I made friends with a woman who followed attachment parenting – which she declared was exactly what I was doing. Except I didn’t find it in a book, I just did it because that’s what my family did.

Of course I understand that there are people who didn’t like how they were raised (my husband is one) so they look to outside resources like books, so thank goodness they are there to fall back on.

People are probably less happy because of everything you listed – kids are underfoot 24/7, people don’t feel safe letting their kids just go play, society is a harsh judge, the overscheduling, etc. I’ve worked hard to maintain ME and I know I wouldn’t be happy if I didn’t make that a priority.

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