How To Unspoil Your Child

October 12, 2010

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When I got a review copy of this book I was quite excited to read it. While I don’t consider any of my children spoiled, I was currently struggling with one of my kids who was clearly in a phase of “disequilibrium”.

(Actually I have to clarify that statement because I believe ALL American children are spoiled in comparison with kids around the world. But I digress.)

The poutiest
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This particular child was at a place where s/he expected to get his or her way or there would often be whining or pouting.

Not attractive.

It seems that the appearance of the book in the mail corresponded with her naturally growing out of this phase. Sigh. These kids are always changing on us. This situation had caused me some distress for months and then it just improved on its own overnight. Oh well.

Nonetheless, the book is excellent and I enjoyed it thoroughly. Without resorting to spankings, yelling or other authoritarian parenting techniques, it outlines a plan you can begin almost immediately to unspoil a kid.

My favorite chapters were the ones on “Grab Their Attention/Shock and Awe Them“. Basically these point out the fact that sometimes children need a not-to-be-denied reminder of parental authority. This doesn’t mean a screaming Mimi momma fit or grounding for a year. (In fact going overboard or getting emotional AT ALL will ruin the whole plan.)

Unspoiling, according to the author, is not so much about what you DO, it’s about what you don’t do. It’s about calmly taking the child’s allowance back when the child gripes that it’s not enough. It’s about putting the toy back on the shelf when the child begs for two. It’s about not hitting up the Starbucks drive thru for a kid’s hot cocoa every single time you run errands. It’s about not feeling guilty when you take time for yourself and your spouse. It’s about just saying No with love.

In our current culture where people have more wealth and more choices than ever, yet are more discontented and unhappy than ever, this book will help you raise grateful happy kids. (In short, easily digested chapters for parents who don’t have much time to read.)

You can grab a copy of How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents on Amazon.

Disclaimer: I received no compensation for this review. I did get a copy of the book so I could read it and write this here review. Duh.

Quick question: Would you be interested in hearing an interview of the author for more info about UnSpoiling your child?

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3 Responses to “How To Unspoil Your Child”

  1. Leanne on October 12th, 2010 10:09 am

    And interview would be great!

  2. Candi @ Family Stamping and FOOD! on October 13th, 2010 5:44 pm

    I think children should be spoiled to a degree. With that said, I think some parents can go overboard giving in to every whim and want. I know my children are spoiled to some degree, but I hope love prevails. Thanks for sharing this review of the book. I’d like to hear an interview with the author.

  3. Edie Mindell on October 29th, 2010 4:10 am

    Awesome book. I’ll certainly look for it.:-) This is beneficial for the first-time parents as sometimes they get confuse with the right way of spoiling their children. Thanks for the feature.:-)

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