Comments on: Wifey Wednesday: What I Wish I Had Known

By: Candi

Candi — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 02:34:38 +0000

Nice writing Carrie! I have to agree with everything you said. We’ve been married for 11 years and we are pretty happy. We all have issues that we constantly have to improve on, it takes two to make it work. Verbalizing our concerns to our husbands makes a big difference. Men do not think like women and we have to help them understand our needs and concerns.

Get some rest

By: Sharie

Sharie — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 12:39:27 +0000

Carrie,
So happy to hear you’re doing so well!

And your spot-on marriage reflections got me to thinking…
It will be 25 years this July for us…a looonnggg time!

The whole ‘don’t depend on others to make yourself happy’
couldn’t be more true. Due to some childhood issues, I tend to struggle with that, BUT–when I get it right, it is so very right! I kind
of wane in and out of clarity on that issue, I’m ashamed to admit.

The key as you said: Making yourself happy by DECIDING to be happy, no matter what, and Acts 20:35, unselfishly giving out of love. No truer words have been spoken. The second part I have down-pat, but the first one is a toughie…

And we’ve surely had some tough going here lately (not marriage-wise, just life circumstances, as in our two daughters getting married 9 months apart during a really bad time economically for one;-) , so remembering that our marriage and our relationship with our Creator is indeed what will sustain our family and hold it together thru these tough times is so important, isn’t it??

And the proof positive is that the moments we lose that focus become the moments we feel overwhelmed. So thanks for the reminders.

Also, the whole sex thing not depriving yourself of that God-given pleasure in life is a smart thing, but on the other hand, I know some wives who, just because their libido is low, they deprive their husbands of that pleasure, and that is one dangerous mistake, too… Another Bible-based thought that’s sometimes overlooked, huh?

Now if I could just get my rear end back to exercising, I’d be a long way toward feeling less stressed…

Have a great rest-of-pregnancy!

Sharie

By: Elizabeth Ashe

Elizabeth Ashe — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 19:13:35 +0000

Carrie this is an excellent post, I feel we have many things in common as you already know. Religiously, lots of babies, natural living and so and so forth. I got married and 20 and have been married close to 10 years now, and it has had it ups and downs. The whole libido thing, I have gone through that in and out of phases but you live and learn. One thing I have learned also as well it to give him his space along with attention, I tend to focus on the children more and to find a balance between him and the kids took some time.

All in all, it will always be a challenge to keep the family lines strong but when you have someone that truly knows you and in line with your values it makes things a lot easier.

Oh, I learned to that when I do exercise on a regular basis it helps me to have more energy dealing with kids. Being anemic it can be a challenge sometimes to not get tired.

Wishing you the best, I’ll have to call you sometime!

By: Sharon McMillan

Sharon McMillan — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 02:02:49 +0000

Good post Carrie. I’ve been married 22 years and through the many ups and down, I have to say I’m more in love with my husband now than when we met (which I didn’t think was possible) and it all has to do with some of the insight you share above.

I love what you say about not expecting a spouse to make you happy and how things almost “magically” improve when you instead focus on the good things that make you happy (in an unselfish way). So true.

Wishing you all the best in your marriage and for your family!

By: Melissa Multitasking Mama

Melissa Multitasking Mama — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:59:05 +0000

What a great post! I admire your ability to look back with such clarity! Praying for many years of happiness for you and your husband!