I have a couple of challenges and need your suggestions. These aren’t questions emailed to me from readers, they’re mine-all-mine.
Toddler Nap Tips?
Ruby will be 2 in July, and I think she may be giving up naps. THE HORROR! It seems rather early, my other kids were at least 3 before they gave up naptime. So this could be a temporary stage for her.
This is a particularly bad time for her to be going through this stage of development, as I’m very very very pregnant and NEED a nap in the middle of the day. As well, since I’m very very very pregnant that means there will be a newborn soon – and I’ll need that nap even more.
Up until about a week ago she was a good napper. At around 11 or 12 she would come to me and ask me for “night night”. But now, she resists mightily and all the usual tricks don’t work. She may eventually fall asleep after 30 minutes or so of work, and by then I’m grumpy and exhausted. (If we get in the car for a ride, she’ll be out like a light.) If she does nap, she sleeps 1 1/2 – 2 hours. If she doesn’t get that nap, she will be miserable in the evening and may not sleep particularly well at bedtime either.
Is this more of a discipline issue? Not sure. She has been giving Daddy a hard time about bedtime, too. She isn’t fussy or anything, she just won’t fall asleep easily for him like she used to after their usual routine. It’s tiring him out. If I dropped the nap would she fall asleep early again?
I realize now that I’m asking more than one question. Gimme your best shot!
I could try:
- Continue trying to get her to nap, but waking her after an hour
- Give it up, and if I need to rest, recruit an older kid to babysit (I don’t nap for longer than 20 minutes, so this is a viable option)
- Put her in bed with an audiobook and insist she stay there for at least a half hour (figuring that she’ll likely fall asleep if I’m firm with her)
What do you think?
Wicked, Evil Afterbirth Pains
Any woman who has given birth more than twice probably shudders a little when I say the words “afterbirth pains”. They tend to get worse after each delivery, thanks to the fact that your uterus has to work ever harder to get back to pre-pregnancy size.
After the last couple of babies, the pains were wickedly intense and had me in tears several times a day. It wasn’t hormones and sadness, it was from sheer PAIN. The afterbirth pains have seemed more painful than labor after the last couple of babies.
I’ve tried liquid calcium several times a day. I’ve tried binding my belly. I’ve tried lying on my stomach. I’ve tried AfterEase tincture. I’ve tried high doses of Advil. I’ve tried red wine. I’ve tried all of those, at the same time.
This time, I’m strongly considering narcotics. And I really don’t want to go that route. Any suggestions?
Thanks for your expert advice mamas!