Comments on: Video Games and Your Kids http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/video-games-and-your-kids/ Natural Motherhood, Breastfeeding, Baby Wearing and Green Living. Thu, 24 May 2012 08:12:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Aodbb http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/video-games-and-your-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-35177 Aodbb Fri, 08 May 2009 16:24:15 +0000 http://naturalmomstalkradio.com/blog/?p=1367#comment-35177 When will parents get it? When will they realize there is only 1 person they can ever be in control of and it is not a child or a spouse? Are these parents involved? Are they trying out the video games for themselves? Or are they upset that the video games have become the only place the child feels safe from their controlling parents? We respect our children and they do not have these issues with video games. They are still very connected to the world around them and by giving them the true choice (where they can say yes or no and not "get in trouble") they are able to decide how long they need or want to play. There is no fighting, no demanding, arguing... Maybe it is because the children mentioned above are leaving their parents at age 6 to go to school. It could be many other reasons other than the video games. I think it is wrong to assume that playing video games "all the time" creates these disruptions. I think it is the parent trying to control, instead of being with their child and seeing these wondrous creations as puzzle solving fun....seeing it through the eyes of their child. When my son gets frustrated with a level he is trying to complete I don't rush him or tell him to get off the game system. Instead I offer a "good luck hug" and ask him to try to explain it to me. He doesn't get upset then, instead he brightens and remembers it is just a game and that when he steps away for a bit he can come back and master the problem. We are so quick to want to blame something other than ourselves for the issues with our children. I think 9 times out of 10 it is the parent who has the issue. When will parents get it? When will they realize there is only 1 person they can ever be in control of and it is not a child or a spouse? Are these parents involved? Are they trying out the video games for themselves? Or are they upset that the video games have become the only place the child feels safe from their controlling parents?

We respect our children and they do not have these issues with video games. They are still very connected to the world around them and by giving them the true choice (where they can say yes or no and not “get in trouble”) they are able to decide how long they need or want to play. There is no fighting, no demanding, arguing…

Maybe it is because the children mentioned above are leaving their parents at age 6 to go to school. It could be many other reasons other than the video games. I think it is wrong to assume that playing video games “all the time” creates these disruptions. I think it is the parent trying to control, instead of being with their child and seeing these wondrous creations as puzzle solving fun….seeing it through the eyes of their child. When my son gets frustrated with a level he is trying to complete I don’t rush him or tell him to get off the game system. Instead I offer a “good luck hug” and ask him to try to explain it to me. He doesn’t get upset then, instead he brightens and remembers it is just a game and that when he steps away for a bit he can come back and master the problem.

We are so quick to want to blame something other than ourselves for the issues with our children. I think 9 times out of 10 it is the parent who has the issue.

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