What Will Parenting My Teen Be Like?

February 14, 2008

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When I grow up and my kids are teenagers, I hope I’m as cool as Aurelia Williams. Aurelia’s show is all about parenting teenagers. I listened to this week’s show and thought about the fantasy I’ve always had with my younger kids.

I imagine myself sitting in front of a coffee shop sipping latte with my oldest son Caleb. He has blonde hair that’s really light at the tips and his big blue eyes are shining. (Yes, he is my child. Very blonde and very blue eyed. When he was born I was like, “Did that just come out of me?” So much for dominant genes!) He’s tall and skinny and wearing baggy skater pants. He’s well read and a great conversationalist - this isn’t much of a stretch, he’s both those things now.

I imagine us having conversation. I am laughing at his jokes and generally enjoying listening to his point of view on things. Sometimes he scares me a little bit, but mostly I’m so proud of him I could bust open and spill out all over the sidewalk.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, I’m really looking forward to my teenagers. Despite our stressful moments, we have great communication. Even though I’ve overreacted to things and overdisciplined many times, for the most part I know when to slow down and just listen. Reading books like How To Talk So Kids Will Listen has taught me how to acknowledge and mirror feelings. I’ve also learned how to talk through problems instead of automatically punishing or consequencing. I also know about myself that I won’t take adolescence personally. It’s not about me, it’s about them needing to push/pull to become an adult.

Thanks Aurelia for providing such great information and being so positive about the parent - teen relationship!

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2 Responses to “What Will Parenting My Teen Be Like?”

  1. pooja on February 15th, 2008 1:01 am

    hi,
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    thanks for sharing above information :)

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  2. Aurelia on February 15th, 2008 10:50 am

    Thanks for this post Carrie!! I am so happy you enjoyed the show and I bet you are going to be just as awesome of a mom to you teens as you are to them today!! :)

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